MANY long-term heterosexual couples DON'T talk about sex. It feels vulnerable, they're not used to it, and they've gotten into a pretty good rhythm of how sex happens (or doesn’t happen) in their relationship. But when things start to feel stale, less satisfying, sex drops off, and maybe you feel rejected or insecure, it really helps to practice your "talking about sex" skills!
In this video, I outline how to start simply telling your partner what you like and don't like, and having them do the same - WHILE you're engaged in pleasure-seeking with one another. And if you haven't had PIV (penis in vagina) sex for a while, maybe due to performance or health issues, I suggest simply taking that part of sex off the menu and finding new ways to enhance your pleasure - all the while, talking about what's working for you and what's not!
"Take off the pressure to bring on the pleasure."
I always get a laugh when I tell my clients to go do this "homework". Hope you try it as well.
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